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What if you don't have a dream?

December 21st, 2008 at 08:16 am

Over at the Simple Dollar Trent talks about giving up your dream.

I never really had a dream...

After my divorce I wanted to learn more about income taxes so I took a class on income taxes. I had a perfectly good paying job but at the end I was offered a chance to work part time doing income taxes. I liked it. I liked it much more than my usual day job.

Then my day job became more stressful and just plain horrible. I was worried it was going to come to a head so I began socking every penny away until I had enough in the bank to survive 12 months.

When I was put on probation for the second time in less than a year I knew I couldn't work there anymore. I wasn't ever going to please my new manager. So I quit and went back to school. I am an accounting/finance major and got 3 A's and a B my first semester. I got an internship at an insurance company doing cost basis for surrendered policies. I still do my income tax work, in season. Next year I will have a full scholarship. Financially I am still okay. I haven't had to use any of my savings to make ends meet.

But I still don't have a dream...

There is nothing that really fuels my flame. I am happy going on day to day and living my life as it unfolds. When I am 50 I will finally graduate from college with a BBA. I will probably find another job in accounting. I will probably look into getting a masters. I have been looking at different fields and thinking about what I want to do. With my low COL I could do anything... but I really would like to find that dream, that one thing I want to do more than anything else.

I have been thinking about what I love to do. If I didn't have to work what would I do?

I like learning new things. I like teaching new things to individuals but not necessarily to groups. I seem to work better one-on-one.

I like helping people, but I find them frustrating. Most of the people I meet don't want help thay just want solutions that don't require any work on their part.

I like being a wife, cooking, keeping a nice house. When I was married we would often host parties and I loved making sure that everyone had a good time. I don't like going to parties but I did like the feeling that the guests were well taken care of. People liked coming to our parties and they were always well attended.

I like inteligent conversations with intelligent people. I like debating concepts and having discussions about important topics.

So how does all this fit into a dream? Does everyone have to have a dream?

11 Responses to “What if you don't have a dream?”

  1. lizajane Says:

    I don't really have a dream either. Shorter term goals, yes. But not a feeling of "I would be so much happier if X happened". I like to enjoy life as it goes along day to day too. Sometimes it takes unexpected twists and turns, and where I am today isn't at all close to where I thought I'd be. But that's okay with me. I don't have a 5-year plan, or 10-year plan. Heck, I barely have a 1-week plan. So, I sure hope the answer is NO, everyone does not have to have a dream!

  2. Ima saver Says:

    I don't have a dream either, but I sure have a happy life. It is nice not to have to worry about finances like I did when I was young.

  3. creditcardfree Says:

    I wonder if dream and passion would be similar in this situation. You may not have a dream, but it seems you have a mild passion for continuing to improve, learn and move forward. That counts in my book!

  4. PauletteGoddard Says:

    I don't have a dream either. I sometimes wonder if this is as good as it's ever going to get for me.

  5. Ms. Pearl Says:

    You sound like you are content which for a lot of people, is a dream that never comes to fruition.

  6. fern Says:

    Sounds like you might enjoy catering? Being a wedding planner? Working as a tutor?

  7. ceejay74 Says:

    I don't really have a big dream, like a life's work that I would love to devote all my time to. I'm always interested to learn about people who are so singular in focus, but I don't think I'm missing out on anything--or rather, I AM missing out on what that feels like, but they too are missing out--on a life of sampling a little bit of lots of different things. I think they're both great ways to live, but of course when you live the sampler-style life, it can seem a little unfocused, like your life has no one great meaning. Sometimes I think that would be neat to have, other times I think it would be rather limiting.

  8. princessperky Says:

    While I see nothing wrong with not having a big grand plan, I also wonder if you might be able to channel your passion for entertaining in some way? Catering, wedding planning?

    Come help me host a party, I am ALWAYS stressed out!

    Wonder if there is a market for smaller entertaining classes, used to be something you learned I remember reading old rules of etiquette for hosting, and dinner topics.

  9. edd123 Says:

    Consider what your name means and maybe that will give you some help in developing a single purpose for your life.

  10. edd123 Says:

    By the way, thanks for sharing this. I am glad I am not alone in feeling this way.

  11. Marisa Says:

    Thank you! All these comments have made me feel not so bad about not having a life dream/goal/plan with my life. I am 32 and have never had "a dream job". Never had that "oh I have to do this" or the thing I've grown up wanting to do my whole life. I feel like i've been sheltered a lot being disabled since birth and feel like my parents never really instilled in me since I was little that I could do anything I wanted. I wish I had that. Would've made me dream bigger (or dream at all) I think. So I've been jobless for 4 long years. Haven't had the aha moment and don't want to go back to school for anything at all. Nothing interests me enough to go back and learn. Now I'm stuck. Just trying to find anything to keep me afloat.

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